I’ve lived in Charlotte for about a year and a half now, and I’ve SO many friends thus far. Besides my distant cousin who lives an hour away, I had no family or friends when I moved down here. I stayed with my old friend Jiselle, before I got my apartment and then she moved to Atlanta, and I was left to fend for myself. Luckily, I discovered many, many ways to make great friendships & meet people. Here are the steps I’ve created to help you all!
1. Get to Know Your Co-Workers
I was a manager at Hollister Co. when I moved down here, so I couldn’t actually become friends with my employees, only my fellow managers. However, I created strong relationships with my employees close to my age, so that if I ever left the job, we could remain friends! If your co-workers aren’t your employees, you can always join them out for a drink, and ask them to introduce you to their friends. The hardest part is starting! Once you make a connection with someone, more than likely, you will end up befriending their friends too.
2. Discover Upcoming Events Near You
Google will be your best friend when it comes finding out events near you! Their may be a parade uptown, or a huge event at a club or bar! Whatever it is, make sure it’s something that you’ll enjoy so that you can relate to the people around you. Dress to impress at any event, because first impressions are key! You want to seem like the person anybody who love to hangout with! I use eventbrite, to find local events, such a lifesaver!
3. How to Approach Someone
It can be hard going to these events alone but what you need to do is simple: Make a new acquaintance fast! When you first arrive at the event you need to approach someone that you’d interested being friends with. Next, you need to say that you’re new to town, and need advice on where to go for fun (or whatever your interested in, i.e poetry). What will probably happen is they will feel honored to help you out and then you can just ask small talk questions to get to know them! WARNING: You do not want to seem like you’re hitting on the person! Just casually say something that will show that you’re not interested in them sexually, for example, “That guy over there is so handsome, lets hope he has a good personality to match!” This clearly shows that you don’t like the girl you just want some new friends!
4. Getting to Know Their Friends
From here on out it will be like a snowball effect. You will start to meet more people from the first person you met, and then meet their friends and so on. Make sure that you aren’t flakey, and stay true to yourself! You don’t have to be friends with everyone, just make a few good ones that you can grow to trust. This also gives you a chance to be a new you, sometimes moving to a new city means you can start over! I hope these steps help you to make new friends in your new city or town. Comment below any other tips you ladies used to make valuable friendships!